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Claire. 21. Ohio.

The enigma is so diligent
- Alice Fulton
We praise people for being “naturally” smart, too, “naturally” athletic, and etc. But studies continue to show, as they have for some time now, that it is generally healthier to praise schoolchildren for being hardworking, than for being naturally gifted. We know now that to emphasize a child’s inherent ability places pressure on that child to continue to be accidentally talented, which is something that is hard for anyone to control. When the children who are applauded for their natural skills fail, they are shown to take the failure very personally. After all, the process of their success has always seemed mysterious and basic and inseparable from the rest of their identity, so it must be they who are failing as whole people. When students are instead complimented and rewarded for their effort and improvement, they tend to not be so hard on themselves. When they fail, they reason, “Well, I’ll work harder next time.” They learn that they are capable of success, rather than constantly automatically deserving of it, and they learn simultaneously that they are bigger and more complex than their individual successes or failures.
written by Kate of Eat the Damn Cake, The Stupidity of “Natural” Beauty  (via commovente)

(Source: eatthedamncake.com, via commovente)

vincecarters:

Je suis un ananas.

(via vincecarters)

Bring consent out of the bedroom. I think part of the reason we have trouble drawing the line “it’s not okay to force someone into sexual activity” is that in many ways, forcing people to do things is part of our culture in general. Cut that shit out of your life. If someone doesn’t want to go to a party, try a new food, get up and dance, make small talk at the lunchtable—that’s their right. Stop the “aww c’mon” and “just this once” and the games where you playfully force someone to play along. Accept that no means no—all the time.
written by The Pervocracy: Consent culture (via femmeanddangerous)

(via womanistgrrrlcollective)

And I’ll tell you when it’s over.
higher and higher/we’re gonna take it down to the wire/we’re gonna make it out of the fire/we’re gonna make it out.

(Source: Spotify)